Everyday of our lives we are inundated with behavioral norms, what to say, what to do, how to say it and where it should be done. Even in our times of emotional turbulence and disarray we are told that we must maintain certain decorum, matter of fact these seem to be the times that our performance matters the most, almost a socialization pop quiz, if you will.

So the question remains, who decided what is the "correct" way to argue or have an emotional breakdown? Why is it ok (or at least more acceptable) to calmly "debate" a hot topic, and secretly fantasize about throttling the other person than to be brazenly angry and emotional? I'm not condemning nor condoning either behavior but simply wondering, why is it ok present a false emotional front rather than to be openly upset? Especially in recent culture where "keepin it real" or "real talk" is so heavily touted?